The thought that bearing a child gives the ultimate fulfilment to being a woman is so last year. Now most of the woman race has a new goal in hand: raising their children and being the best mother their child could ever have.
Given the 20th century society’s demand for effective parenting that will raise not only the most brilliant but also the most socially-responsible youths, it seems that bearing a child is not enough. Mothers should make it a point that their kids will eventually develop the right values they need for them to become responsible and god-fearing adults when they grow up and take on the world on their own. Also, moms are not just raising children, but also the future generation of people that will take over the world someday so moms might as well want to keep in mind that that their kids should be educated enough to fulfil their foreseen tasks. Education and value-formation starts at ones house hold after all.
Truly, being the best mother is the way to go for mothers, although such way is quite challenging. Despite the increasing number of advices and tips all around that teaches the art, it is still unavoidable for some parents, especially moms, to fail miserably in parenting, especially on dealing with teenage kids.
There is no universal rule on being the best mother. Some strategy may be effective on a child but it will eventually fail on another. If you seek to achieve the Zen of a Perfect Mom, you should not try to formulate the all governing single strategy for it for there is none. Rather, you just can increase your arsenal of tips and ways so that you can improve your chances of having the right relationship with your child.
Although it is considered as an age-old rule on parenting, the rule “set a good example” is still very much applicable. Children are always susceptible to imitate the behaviours they see from their parents. Sure, moms do display inappropriate manners at times but still they must make sure that it is not seen by their children. Also this serves as an advice for parents to eradicate their inappropriate habits, and to learn new good ones. Be the woman you want your daughter to be or you want your son to date someday. It is not a difficult thing and it is rewarding not only to the child but also to the parents as well.
Another tip that mothers should try is that they should let their children practice making decisions. This would be described more effectively as changing the wordings you use on speaking with kids. Instead of telling them “clean up your things”, why don’t you ask them “Honey, when will you clean up your things?” instead? You would be surprised at how giving them the chance to make decisions can change their response to your demands. It is through negotiations like this that children’s decision-making skills, and their sense of responsibility, are developed more extensively.
Also, you should be not only a mother for them but also a friend and confidant. You might be wondering why sometimes there are things that your child will tell to their friends but cannot share it to you. Things like that should change and this can be achieved by establishing rapport with the kids. That is, you should appeal to the topics of their interest first so that they can be comfortable and enthusiastic to speak to you.
There are infinite numbers of tips to being the best mother and parents still have a long way to go in effective parenting. You can even think of ideas of your own on this and share it to others. You should not forget to never stop to try aiming for that ideal perfect mom. After all, it is in aiming for something and doing something towards achieving that thing that we get to achieve it in the end, right?
Much more it would probably one of your best moments as a parent if your children will finally get to say to you that you are the best mom they could ever have. You might even end up in tears if they couple it with a hug.
I am already seeing it.